Thursday, October 2, 2008

get well soon, madam!

On the occasion of Gandhi Jayanti, a group of students in Delhi has apparently sent a bunch of roses to the Chief Minister of Delhi with a 'get well soon' note for her response on the death of a lady professional in Delhi.

What else could the citizens possibly do, when their elected representatives respond so irresponsibly to sensitive issues like these?

You are responsible for the safety of your citizens, which you shamelessly agree, you cannot provide. And you don't stop at that, but go ahead to tell people to go hide themselves in their homes soon! To address someone who was just minding her own business as "adventurous" is totally preposterous. An average working woman on the road is not flanked by black cats and security guards, as you are. You could definitely sound a li'l more sensitive than what you just did!

On an offshoot from the topic, I was just wondering how it's always women who react in the most insensitive manner when it comes to atrocities against other women.

Talking of atrocities on women, from rapes to eve-teasing, I've found more women blaming the victimised women on them dressing or behaving provocatively.
No one gives a damn about the perverted minds who commit the crimes.

When it's dowry harassment or dowry death or even a demand for dowry, it's the mother-in-laws who pull the strings more often than not.

Remember Kaushambi who was killed last year in a hotel room? I remember discussing this with a woman colleague then, who just said "Why did she have to go to a hotel with a guy? She deserved this only"
!!
Just because she checked into a hotel with her boyfriend doesn't mean she asked to be killed, right?

Wouldn't life be a li'l better for women, if as women, we could be at the least (forget being sensitive or considerate) fair to the women around us?

14 comments:

  1. Sheesh what kind of a comment is that?! She didnt even use "cautious" she used "not good to be adventurous!"
    And the second story's resposne is so familiar! They say in Mallu that the greatest enemy of women are women! Its so sickeningly true!

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  2. Wonder What Ms. Dixit meant by being "adventurous". The girl was a journalist for christ sake! Her job demands are such that she has to travel at odd hours. Maybe Madam chief minister can get rid of Z category security cover and travel as a normal woman, she would know better..

    Sorry got pissed off at her after reading the link.. :(

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  3. man, that is ridiculous - Dont be adventurous- what a stupid remark...

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  4. The comment can't be justified as it's coming from an authority who is responsible for the safety of it's citizens. But I feel all of us should be aware that the city is not safe and should take care of ourselves.. If anything happens it's only our family who are at loss and no one else. Sadly the public has very short term memory..

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  5. I cant Belive i am readin this incident first time on your blog, wonder how i missed this in all the news coverage

    I also cant beliver The CM would have said that !

    you girls pray she never becomes the PM, Else the whole of india would be out of bound for "adventorous" girls !!!1

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  6. You are responsible for the safety of your citizens, which you shamelessly agree, you cannot provide. And you don't stop at that, but go ahead to tell people to go hide themselves in their homes soon! To address someone who was just minding her own business as "adventurous" is totally preposterous. An average working woman on the road is not flanked by black cats and security guards, as you are. You could definitely sound a li'l more sensitive than what you just did!

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  7. This is just so sad... politicians shud lrn to mind thr words...

    And ofcourse our society is no less... i remeber tht dhaula kuan rape case whn 2 gals were forced in to a ccar, raped n thn thrown back at the same place after a few hrs... one of my neighbours also said tht it was thr fault cuz thy were out at night

    I was like - UH...DUH... wt nonsense, just cuz thy belonged to the female gender thy don have the rite to do wt thy feel like?/??

    Well the aunty dosn like me anymore... n tht makes me feel all proud...LOL

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  8. @cris: yeah, wrong choice of words, could be..
    and you are so very true with ur other statement.. wonder why it is so! could it be that they think they wont be able to stand their grounds if they fight with their male counterparts, so they take it all out on the women, whom they think will be suffering from the same low-esteem-syndrome as they themselves?

    @seema: no, it's pretty natural a reaction.. infact i was so bugged up with it that i didn't know how to let it out than blog.
    sometimes i feel people don't quite realise the kind of job demands in today's world. they are happy that their daughters and daughter-in-laws bring in a handsome paycheck, but not everyone realises the pressure one goes through to meet up to it's demands.
    If a guy is late from work (though he's sifting through porn on the net) he's hardworking, and if a woman works late, she's being adventurous!
    Talking of which reminds me of something I've heard from a girl-friend, who's in-laws wanted a bride from a tierI company, who earns as much as their son (or more -they are liberal, you see), but goes to office for 10-5 during the day, and cook food herself n not by a maid. :) (n now let's leave the dowry part for good! :P)

    @xh: hmm.. stupid, it is!

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  9. @dhanya: exactly. sometimes I'm reminded of those statements and rules which've been drilled deep into our heads by the nuns in the convent.
    1. Don't talk/laugh loudly
    2. Don't make any noise when you walk
    3. Don't go out in the rain w/o an umbrella. Girls look bad when they are wet.
    4. Don't wear loud colored dresses/accessories.
    etc etc etc

    which makes one take for granted that if something untoward happens to you, then it's only because you failed to follow one of those unwritten rules.. only now, when you grow up and live in a world bigger and bad than that world, the number of rules in the rulebook has increased, and so has the naivety of the rules.

    but then, as you said, better sense prevails as we know we are the ones to be at loss if we aren't careful n so we play safe.
    Though in this case, my concern was for the working-class-woman. I know, not everyone might have the privilege like you or me to work-from-home. If the CM's comment got me all worked up, I was just wondering how outraged those women will be who have to be out at insane hours to just do their work.

    @santosh: :) yeah, there's always this way of thinking that 'things could've been worse!' .. thank goodness, she isn't the PM. But then, most of the world is out-of-bound for women (if she is alone), unless she is 'adventurous' to some extent! :P

    @free: thanks for stopping by to comment!

    @divi: yeah, I remember that one. Sad, it was. Btw, even I always manage to end up in the not-so-goodbooks of aunties and girls like that. :P

    But you know what, mebbe to an extent, that reaction makes sense. Say, when we look at old stories, the lesson we take out of it is: whoever did wrong, got punished. Now, when we look at a crime like this, see who gets punished? It's the girl who was adventurous enough to be out, who suffered.. So naturally, one tends to think that they paid for their mistake.
    This attitude will change, but only when the people who commit the crimes are brought to book and made to pay for it. That's when the society gets the message that the convicted people are the wrong-doers. Unless that starts happening, it's the hapless victims who will be regarded as the wrong-doers.

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  10. I just don't understand as to why ladies are just not regarded the way they used to be. I mean to say "with respect". Being a man I truly feel sorry for this state of ladies, because some or the other way, it is also the Perverted Men who cant stand by Good Values, who are the cause for this misery.

    All said and done. If there is no thrill of Adventure in life then there is nothing in life. My commendation to all the women who face this cruel world. Good Luck.

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  11. Mrs. Dikshit could have been more careful in choosing her words. Perhaps she just wanted to convey : " discretion is better part of valour" etc., like all elderly people always do.But she came out sounding like that infamous remark some mullah made about 'uncovered meat attracting flies' ! She was not speaking as a woman, but as a politico, ever ready to transfer blame and wriggle out of responsibility and accountability. Politics does that to people i guess. SAD !

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  12. It is really sad.. I hope we change, atleast our generation

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  13. @ferox: luck! :) guess everyone needs loads of it to survive in today's world! :)

    @yosee: you said it! :)
    thanks for stopping by!

    @rajarajeshwari: yeah, hopefully things will get better.. so much for wishful thinking! :)
    n hey, welcome! :)

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